Hello everyone! I am doing a blog hop this month inspired by my dear high school and life friend AMY KRANCE-WENDT. See the end of the blog to visit her musings and also Emily McHargue’s thoughts on being a Farm Wife. But, we’ll start with my thoughts of today—-today’s topic is………Civilized.
Corin and I were discussing life tonight with classical music playing, candles lit and Scarlett making contented doggy sounds. And, we both looked at each other and said, “Civilized”. I realized at this moment that he had caught the way of life I had hoped to teach him as a small person. And, this discussion flooded my mind with memories of sleepless weeks, sticky fingers, eager helpers and just a little too much chaos to handle most days! Oh those days of early family life! Not for the faint of heart.
In the midst of this, Steve and I made it our purpose to raise our kids to live a life of family not just chaos. We wanted our home to be hospitable, warm, caring, simple, organized and focused. We read books, tried many things—failed at MORE! And, in the end we found out what worked for our style and personality types.
I want to share some of my favorites with you. The concept of homemaking was HEAVILY inspired by our parents who exhibited lifestyles of embracing people and providing a rest stop in the busy days of life. THANK YOU for your wonderful examples. My mom also introduced me to a very good book by Edith Schaffer called, “The Hidden Art of Homemaking.” This treasure was filled with ideas to inspire and challenge my eager heart. I also appreciate Carol Brazo’s book and her views on Sabbath which is a whole story for another day!
Here’s the Big Rocks…
1. Civilized: This concept is all about taking the every day and elevating it to a place of peace and beauty. And, in our house it meant every night we lit candles for dinner, laid out the plates and napkins, turned on classical or jazz music…or 80s hair bands if needed! Let’s be real! And, we enjoyed our meal time together. We talked, laughed and enjoyed our feast of pb and j or whatever else I could manage at dinner time! We finished with washing all of the dishes up with the candles still burning and the lights low. Some nights we took turns reading as we washed up. It always made it go faster! We also would make a dessert on Sunday night and would invite people over for dessert and hanging out or games. It was a great way to keep entertaining casual and not so stressful.
2. Couch time: I found the storm of 4-5 pm every day with small people to be overwhelming. Kids were hungry, Steve and I tired and just utter chaos. Too many needs hit at once and we brainstormed COUCH TIME! Steve would greet the kids, set them up with their veggies for dinner and a movie or favorite toy. Then, they played in the family room and we went to the couches in the living room uninterrupted for 30 minutes to catch up on the day and check in. They had strict instructions to leave us alone unless blood was involved and it usually worked! We also used this when we had meetings in the house that needed privacy or adult time. I kept a box of toys and movies on hand that could only be played with during couch time and that really helped.
3. Interrupt rule: We used this rule to make sure our children know they always can be heard by Mom and Dad—yet, not interrupt adult conversation with the 5,000 mommy mommy mommy chants. Here’s the rule—the child lays his/her hand on the parents forearm. The parent covers the childs hand with his/her own to acknowledge them. As soon as there is a break in the adult conversation the parents requests a minute and quickly sees what the child needs. The child scampers off with needs met and without interrupting adults and what needs to be done. It is GENIOUS!!!!!!! And, I love knowing my kids can get my attention in a healthy way without dominating the environment they are in! YES YES YES! It’s really funny when my 16 and 22 year old use the interrupt rule today!!!!! My oh my this one stuck.
4. Partial obedience is disobedience. Said it 1,000 times and will 1,000 more. And, what’s unattractive at 2 is really unattractive at 16 or 45. Just 2 thoughts to keep us all keepin’ on in this parenting journey. I work hard on only asking my kids what I will enforce. And, I don’t make empty threats or promises. If there is a consequence—-it happens. If they do 1/2 the work—or obey partially, we discuss why that doesn’t work and how important it is to obey COMPLETELY.
Now get ready to hop on and read————
Amy’s inspires me with her passion, her creativity and her dedication to becoming what she wants to be in life. She takes life and wrestles it into the image of God and the vision He has for her. Go girl! You can find her musings at……http://myincredibleblessedlife.blogspot.com/
Another writer that inspires me married my nephew and just loves being a farm wife. All of my early memories of my nephew Andrew are of him ‘farming’ something. He even turned his baby blankets into hay and strings to care for his farm. His beautiful wife Emily shares his passion for life, their son and their farming lifestyle. It is so fun to watch them together—her blog is: http://diariesofafarmerswife.wordpress.com/
She wants me to answer the following questions as part of our Blog Hop:
1. What am I writing on? I write whatever God brings to mind to chat about and it seems to be about doing the right thing no matter how hard.
2. How do I write? Curled up in a pile of pillows , free form until it takes shape. Then I lightly edit. I don’t want to over think my writing and I want to keep it fairly raw.
3. I want to be real when I write in hopes that it might encourage someone and I also have a wicked wit that creeps into whatever I’m writing—regardless of topic.